* The first one is to nurture his memory. You can go to therapy and spend hours talking about the way he made you feel. You can spend months trying to understand why he did it.
After a while, all your friends will run away. They will use words like pathetic when they talk about you.
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The second option is to get your full power back.
A break up is a battle situation.
It is a crisis.
You have been invested in this guy for months, maybe years.
After you break up, you keep on giving.
You get back nothing.
Your whole mind set needs to shift and be repolarised to one single priority: you!
There is no soft approach here. He is in your mind and it is killing you. It is a self destructive spiral which annihilates your life.
Why? Because he is in your mind.
More! He has power over you.
You are not master of yourself anymore.
What you want is a new mind set. The old mind set of the victim is killing you.
You want to defend your life, your territory.
How to do that?
You radically shift the way you stand in it:
Wake up your survival instinct and get over it.
When you are not over it, you are under it, right?
Being under means carrying a useless weight which drains you and takes away your strength.
Why is that happening? You have no power.
In fact, he does.
Here are some key mind sets you need to wake up in you.
These are survival strategies.
They are not optional.
If you don't apply them, your are dead!
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You are not a victim, you are a winner. In fact this break up might be the best thing which ever happened to you. Put it this way: you are free!
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He is gone and gone forever. You won't get back together. In other terms don't hope he'll change his mind. If you meet him by coincidence, don't see this as a secret sign that you two are meant for each other!
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You don't need him. This is an illusion. You are perfectly fine with or without him.
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You will meet new men. Right now, he does not deserve the attention your give him
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Alcohol or drugs does not help. Getting drunk is the worst thing you can do. Drinking does not give you your power back. In fact it does exactly the opposite.
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You owe him nothing! A relationship is a temple with two pillars. If he takes off, consider yourself 100% free. Let it totally collapse. It's not your responsibility anymore.
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What he does is none of your business! You might believe you have rights? You don't! Simple as that. he does what he wants, when he wants, with whoever he wants. You have no control over that.
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Get real! There are many reasons he did what he did. Most of them have to do with fulfilling his own needs. Get real about who he is and what he wanted. Don't defend him.
Again, in a break up situation, you need to wake up your power and see this as a battle for survival.
Soft approaches don't work! It is a waste of your precious time.
You have the power to force yourself into a new mind set. This new mind set gives you freedom, space and instant recovery.
The question is: what do you want?
This is about your own survival.
Do what it takes to express your full power.
Added (2008-05-28, 6:32 Am)
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ayan ah haba
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